One thing I think is a key part to Things Fall Apart, is Okonkwo's relationship to his family and his demeanor. Okonkwo has been perceived as stern, determined, strict and over all emotionless since the beginning of the story. He has three wives, and a lot of kids and he rarely shows the slightest bit of affection. Okonkwo's dad was the town's disappointment, because of his lack of motivation and outrageous amount of debt accumulated. Because of Unoka's bad reputation Okonkwo is fearful of becoming like his dad, and disappointing his kids.
 I believe, although Okonkwo is very stubborn and aggressive at times there is still a sense of love and adoration for his children , but because expressing emotions is "womanly " he chooses not to show them. This is a very difficult situation for Okonkwo and his family because everyone is left with the wrong impression. I think Okonkwo will regret not being more sensitive and loving to his children later in the story.